We yearn for connection. We are wired for belonging. We want to know we are not traveling this path alone. Right from the beginning, God spoke the words “it is not good for man to be alone” and ordained our hunger for community. We need each other.
Yet, at the same time, we hide from each other. We push each other away in the spaces we need each other most. The nagging voice of our inner critic whispers these words:
- You have nothing meaningful to offer.
- You aren’t as good as…
- You aren’t as smart as…
- You are not enough.
- If they really knew you, they wouldn’t love you.
So we pretend. We wear our shiny, happy masks and insist we are “fine.” We adamantly declare how very busy we are as our proof of worthiness. We compare and compete, hoping to catch up and earn entrance to an imaginary club for which there are no actual members, Club Perfect. We are convinced we just need to try harder so we won’t be the only one on the outside looking in.
In her book For the Love, Jen Hatmaker speaks to this struggle: Continue reading