In just 8 short days, my first born will graduate from college. Five minutes ago, this same child was digging in the dirt for worms while sucking her thumb and wearing a sparkly tiara and hot pink plastic high heels. And yes, in case you were wondering, it did indeed require a strong stomach and a relaxed attitude about personal hygiene to watch her play with worms while sucking her thumb. In our defense, I was busy gardening and those worms weren’t going to get married and build precious little worm homes all by themselves!
Now she is a gorgeous, confident 22 year old with big dreams and a dazzling future stretched out in front of her. As with every other aspect of her life, just in time for her graduation, I am finally figuring out how to do this college mom thing. No worries, she has been told repeatedly she is our practice child, so she is quite patient with me.
For those of you soon to join our ranks, here are a few things you will need in your arsenal of tools in order to be a (mostly) awesome college mom.
A Poker Face I really cannot adequately stress the importance of this powerful tool. Luckily, a great deal of your communication will take place over text message which allows your face to freak out while your typing fingers remain calm, cool and collected. In order to keep the lines of communication open, a mostly awesome college mom needs to learn to be non-reactive in the face of news which would have sent you into lecture and consequence mode just a year or two earlier. Things get a bit more lively in college and sometime the stories are…let’s say, “colorful.” Hopefully, your student is an amused bystander for most of the more shocking escapades or at least they are when they share the story with you. If you want them to keep talking, you better learn to smile, nod and occasionally use the big-eyed shocked face emoji on your phone. You particularly need a poker face if your children are theater majors. College theater is extremely weird.
An awareness of 21st century modes of communication As mentioned previously, if you don’t text now, you better start ASAP. Although I occasionally break down and demand to hear the sound of their voices, 90% of my communication with both my college daughters has been through texting. The great thing about texting is the ability to send them a quick note of encouragement Continue reading